Re-Introducing the NYStateofMom

*Taps Mic, Clears Throat* Ummm Hello! 


Well it's taken me a while to get back to blogging because once again, LIFE HAPPENED. In the months between my last post and now ALOT has gone and a lot of which will change the content of this blog and I wanted to have a clear mind and understanding before picking up the laptop again so I'll try to quickly catch you all up and then move on to the fun of blogging again.


In a marriage it's a blessing to find that where you are weak your partner is strong and vice versa because having that special connection can make you feel like you can get through, do, and conquer anything. It is never healthy to become or need the other person to be a crutch because it doesn't allow for growth sodzz when the rough times come up everyone's real strength comes to the surface and you might find your team isn't as strong as you'd hope. The Mr decided one morning a few weeks before Father's Day that he could not handle the pressures/responsibility of being a husband and father and so without argument or explanation, left. In my search and worry all the explanations and weird behaviors, I won't get into here, brought me to the decision to call my marriage over. I have waited to have a breakdown, ugly face, cry it out session and it hasn't come yet, not even when our Anniversary and Chunk's 2nd Birthday came and went, so I'm just not looking for it to come anymore just the simplest divorce arrangement. I have a son to consider and raise and that has become my sole focus. I can honestly say, I'm in a good place right now, sad that I believe in marriage and worked so hard for mine and still had to call it a failure, but I know that I gave it my all and got a great son out of it.


Speaking of that great son of mine CHUNKS STARTED PRE-SCHOOL!! A little late because our target school actually lost funding from the city and wanted to charge us $1,300 a month! Yea 1,300 American dollars!! I actually considered biting the bullet and sending him there but then I realized, Chunks already knew his Alphabet and could count to 13 and that didn't cost me anything but my pride making up silly songs for him to catch onto, so that was a NO. Thankfully, after searching the neighborhood we found a great school with warm teachers who have really helped us all with the transition from no-daycare experience to a school setting (with homework to boot). They are much cheaper and focus on the child's development and education (science projects and all), we're both pretty happy so far. 


While Chunks got settled into school, I've decided that it was time for Mom to finally get back to developing her own life. So I'm studying for my MCATS again, pray for me yall, and really brushing up on evil courses Organic Chemistry. So between work, Chunks and pre-school, and studying again I've had my hands a little full. Thank you to everyone who checked up on my via the blog and Twitter I love the friends I've made through both and checked in on most sites during my time away. Can't wait to catch you guys on the adventures of the newly single, NYStateofMom and the super cute CHUNKS!!