"It's too many black women that can say they mothers but can't say that they wives..."
~Common Sense Retrospect For Life feat. Lauryn Hill
Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher
(longest married couple alive 84 YEARS!!!)
So today I just want to highlight my young (and seasoned) married couples for reviving the trend and reminding the world that there's a major strength in a COMPLETE family unit. To those who haven't found it yet, in due time when you're ready it will find you and you won't regret the wait!
The Top Ten Seasoned Advice for Young Married Couples
1-Get your pride out of the equation and try to see yours and his/her side of the argument.
2-Forget the "Don't Go to Bed Mad" rule, sometimes you need to go to sleep to cool down but don't let the "silent argument" go on for more than the next day.
3-COMMUNICATE!!! Talk it out! Sometimes you won't feel like it but what they don't know, they can't fix!
4-Do not use sex as punishment! It backfires in more ways then one.
5-Go back to what made you friends in the first place. If you went to the movies on Wednesday, or you made him dinner on Sundays in the beginning try to go back to that at least one in a while.
6-Find a common ground to stand on. Be it church, philosophical practices, or yoga. Share something that takes you to another level, it creates a bond like none other.
7-Celebrate the journey but map out the rest.
8-There are 3 people in a marriage. The Husband. The Wife. Your God! NO ONE ELSE! Seek wise counsel but NEVER invite anyone into your relationship, EVER!
9-Be patient! Especially in the early days, it will take a while to feel out each other's quirks but find a way to either alter (ladies read change lol) them or adjust yourself to them. (Ie. Socks on the floor or tools in the bedroom)
10- Remember the Love! Remember that this is your boo, your sweetie, your One and Only. The one person that no matter what has your back and in most cases, YES, even more than your mother! Think back to what made you rush home to see them, remember how excited you got when you knew they were coming over, feel the pitter patters in your heart when their name shows up on the caller id! It truly helps you get over any and everything when it's all said and done.
CONGRATULATIONS to all the newly weds and soon to be's! and CONGRATS to all of you who have done it and are still doing it!